Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Free your tongue and the world shall follow !

“Free your mind and the world will follow” I remember hearing a song that went somewhat like this. I can compete with a Goldfish when our memories are concerned.
I have always believed in freedom of speech. Perhaps one of the most “customized” of the fundamental rights we Indians can be proud of. As a little girl, I was always told at home and at school, young girls should be seen, not heard, which meant I could not slurp my noodles loudly, I could not drag my feet on the staircase and of course, I need to stop laughing like a Hyena.

I dint stop either of the above.

Studying in a Convent school meant extreme importance given to your English language, the diction, vocabulary and all the trims and tassels. In particular, my favorite subject was English Language which chiefly focused on ones “own knowledge and efficiency” with the subject. I am sure all of you remember writing essays, or stories which would give you a score of about 20. The authror(wanna-be-author) in me was blooming at age 13 so at one such given paper, I chose to write about “my beachside experience”. Being immensely influenced by “Jaws” I knew this would be an the perfect outlet for my creative insanity featuring a shark attack, me, a night devoid of stars and a shark food boyfriend.  Needless to say I was summoned by my then teacher , and asked the cause of this “absurd essay”. I remember saying “Teacher it is a test for my proficiency in the language, use of words, ability to narrate an event, which I did in the essay and should be judged purely on that. Also I choose to swim against the current hence my essay was different”. My teacher, whenever she meets , 16 years after that episode asks:How are the Sharks doing “ and all I can do is smile and bless my stars for the 17 I scored in that essay. I lost the 3 because the shark ate my boyfriend.

I moved out of my home at the age of 17, moving into a new city, studying English, reading works and thoughts of great writers and poets. A thought I personaly go by always is what Gandhi Ji said “Be the change you want to see” Like my tongue which flies around irrespective of authority, my hands too have a mind of their own. I was travelling to work in the morning local and as always was alte.In a rush I got into the general compartment, knowing need to keep my huge handbag In front to avoid any “by mistake se ho gaya “episodes. As I tried fixing my ear phones I felt a hand move down by body, very unpleasant feeling, I MUST SAY. And the very next minute my hand flew into a fit, slapping the man behind me, who turned out to be a middle aged guy. What happened in the next few minutes was a barrage of abuses (yes I have been raised in Bihar) a few tight slaps, with the desired sound effects and of course the regular collar tugging. I dint tell the man about his relationship with his sister or mother or nurse because I know that’s what all of us do. I conveniently left him a few sharp abuses, in front of all the commuters and stepped down at the next station. Looking back I think that’s one of the best instances of me “speaking up for myself”. No it was not a dialogue, it was not a thought provoking message but pure “freedom of speech”

I am putting this as an entry for  a contest on Indiblogger, I know a lot of you girls and boys out there with a mind of their own, so thought of sharing this with you


Lady Whispers said...

Wah meri pataka I am super duper proud of you for that patakha wala chatta.....I wish i was like u in that age....but that if i did that in delhi whole paltan of goons appears and noone really sides you....sigh

Waise covent and english love makes us super similar doubt i so love you :D

btw meri patakha pehchana mujhe in new avatar or now ;-)
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sulagna ™ said...

Nabs you are the only one who calls me a phataka and absolutely lights up my face with a big smile :)

Subhorup Dasgupta said...

Very well written. The tragedy of our society is that we want the gratification of depersonalizing and objectifying women in every area, from love and lust, marriage, parenting, education, employment, to entertainment, yet we want society to be civil to women and are shocked when crimes are committed against them. If we can learn to see the fingers pointing back at us instead of pursuing an "exploiter/abuser" out there, we can start making a real difference. Cheers to your courage.

Alka Gurha said...

I wish I could read the essays I wrote hen I was young...I am sure your "Jaws' inspired essay was straight out of ur heart.

Suruchi said...

hahaha-you remind me of the essays I have written and some horrendous stories i have read of my students:-)

you have guts and grit since birth-it is now a confirmed fact...and yes, a mind too that you speak out and is absolutely beautiful-just like you:-)

all the best for the contest:-)

Swati Seth said...

ROTFL @ "I lost the 3 because the shark ate my boyfriend."

Very well written.

p.s.-i'm still laughing..:D

संजय भास्कर said...

well written...sulagna ji

Sujatha Sathya said...

that essay sounds like fun & i am glad your teacher was supportive

3marks minus for shark eating BF - haha

the second episode is so disgusting but so commonplace too. glad you spoke up - well,fired up :)

good luck with the contest

Ranjith (SRGF) | A light hearted talk said...

You are indeed a very brave girl. :-) But I wonder what you were doing when the sharks devoured your friend.........
All the best for the contest.

CB said...

I L-O-V-E your writing style.. the piece about shark-food boyfriend is especially amusing.. reminded me of the stories I'd cook up for the school magazines.

I'm quite new to blogging and your blog is one which I'm especially fond of. The clarity with which you express your feelings and views is inspiring.

Good luck!

Anonymous said...

A fun essay. And yes it's import to speak up for oneself

Tanvi said...

You are such a good writer!!! ... and so brave! Kudos to you! :)

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Asmita said...

You are certainly a brave girl and I agree , one must have the courage to speak up.

Jack said...


She should not have cut any marks as that was a novel way to end unwanted friendship. LOL. Was he the real culprit or someone pushed him forward to take the brunt? I am sure after that they all must have given you right of way. How I wish girls have your courage, then such incidents will surely stop.

Take care

Santa said...

love the flow in your writing....

Lipsy said...

Good Luck..hope youwin...this makes a fantastic win

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♫♪♥PhilO♥♪♫ said...

Being in a convent school myself, I can relate to the strictness of the English language :)
I love coming up with funny ideas and writing them down in my essays :)

You wrote it well! Good luck with the contest :)

Keep blabbering. :D

Thousif Raza said...

fiery yaoza :P

Liked it, i am glad u showed him a piece of ur mind di.. he thoroughly deserved it. :)

Take care and keep writing..........

Anupama K. Mazumder said...

The two parts of your post are quite amazing. I totally agree with your defence for your essay, and appreciate your teacher for accepting it.

Ugh, why havent some men changed even in this stage of development? Bihar or any other state, such incidences happen.. and the girls should turn around and raise their voices..

KayEm said...

Oh I am sorry you lost those 3 points. After all, sharks get hungry too. (Kids are ingenious and I love their writing.) Also, am glad you let lose - letting that creep know how unpleasant “invasive” actions are. Haha.

Hope you won the contest.

SJ said...

LOVED THE POST. And applaud u for the courage you showed of putting the jerk in perspective.

I could never understand whats with men. When there are so many available women, why do they have to be such pervs.

Firls its something to learn from. Hats off to Sulagna, cos most of us wud just let it pass and that wud only encourage such jerks.

Shivani Negi said...

You have the particular flair for writing, and that is what makes me keep coming to your blog...after sooo long also....when free from all the work just relaxing in the corner, reading your post gives a sweet smile ...and you are definitely a brave girl...kudos to you and love to the little one


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