Tuesday, June 22, 2010

You know Its Love when.....


Along these two years of marriage many a times we have been asked "is yours a love marriage" to which G smiles and says no and to which i make my eyes round n big and say "noooo we met on jeevansaathi"


When my parents told me one fine day, that i should get married and should be looking out for options, i was asked if i prefer anyone..On hearing me say no , my mother let out a sigh of relief and told baba" ohh i knew it, our daughter will always leave this important decision on us " The last time i tried taking the decision on my own, i ended up engaged to a guy, spent all my youth n my baby love and ended with a broken engagement in 6 months and of course, i ended up with a quote written on my forehead "All men are C**** "

After more than a year of jeevansaathi profile ID number exchange, meeting around 6 different charlies ( One of those charlies further sent a friend request to G after we got married) every two months, realising that you need to stay away from certain IIT ,IIM kinds, i knew what i wanted. I knew there is nothing called love, i enjoyed watching movies like "I Am Legend" and quit reading mush!

what i wanted was my own flat by the age of 30, huge French windows, a black lab, a Silver Mini Cooper and yes in time, get myself artificially inseminated and have babies..yeah..i love babies, and i dont care much about the means of getting them!! Yes i forgot to add, my flat would be in central london perhaps and with a larder stacked with macvities and greeen tea.

But things changed on 10th November 2007, forever. i stood waiting at the window waiting for the new Mukherjee guy to come, and as he got out of the car i screamed at my ma" His father sent us a photo without a moustache but look HE HAS A MOUSTACHE!!!! "

My parents were forewarned not to even consider men with moustaches or ones who could not speak good English..of course the list was longer but these were mandates.

I never believed in love at first sight, actually dont know if ours was love at first sight or not, cuz the moment he sat across me at the table, i said to myself "awww he is soo nice" mind you, by now he had not even opened his mouth. As we spent more time i dint get what i had expected. I wanted romantic messages, i wanted loving mails, i wanted surprise gifts, i expected white lillies at my office, i expected cute status messages on Orkut, i wanted more scraps on Orkut..

But i got more ...G sat quitely and listened to em as we sat by the Bandra Bandstand, as i rattled how my day went, he would slow down his pace as i walked in my heels, he would come late so i could sneek 5 minutes of make up before he came, he spoke about his family, he told me how the New Year fireworks in Germany was seeming incomplete, he wrote me a message while coming back to India saying "Next time we would travel together" As i stayed alone home one night, when my parents left for Jamshedpur for our wedding preparations he promised he would never leave me alone, he shared with me his plans of buying a house in Pune, he asked me if i like cane furniture or not and suddenly i realised..this is what people say is Love. its the silent desire to hold him, but feeling shy. Its about listening to every word i say and think about it when he goes to bed, its about thinking of saving some more money so we could have a grand honeymoon, its about quiting heels and moving to flats so you can walk with him, its about knowing a person.
Love is not about gifts and candle light, its about what you talk of for hours when there is no electricity and you can keep talking. Love is not about expensive eating outs but thanking god for the quick Maggi he makes for you when you are tired. It is about sending that message before his flight takes off " Have a nice flight and text me once you reach..i will wait" and smiling you see him calling after he lands.

So this blog is for all of you who send me mails and ask me how do you know its love, you will know its love when you sit by a beach at night and suddenly wish he was there, when you have 500 bucks in your wallet and instead of buying a t-shirt for yourself, you pick up those floaters he wanted. Its about becoming blind to his shortcomings and being strong to forgive his mistakes. Its about picking your cell phone every half and hour to see if he messaged. Its about setting a hello tune that could perhaps describe your relation, its about waking up one fine day and asking " Has he also woken up...lemme call n see"

Its about realising that his hands are the most wonderful things i have ever felt on my skin!! !

And its still love when he puts on his black shirt and gels his hair, smelling of DKNY and your skirt flies up!!! you faint ..get up again and say "wow i love this man!!"


PS for G baby: holding your hand IS the most amazing thing i do all day baby !!




74 comments:

Nu said...

1st :)

Nu said...

I've never read such a beautiful post about love..the real one at that :)

I loved the line Its about realising that his hands are the most wonderful things i have ever felt on my skin!! along with the other lines that you've put down here...

Loved this post,totally !

hAAthi said...

i can so relate to so much you have penned here :) and quite contrary to what i felt in my angst-ridden teenage years (and a few more thereafter, till i found the man i was meant to be with), being in love is really one of the simplest things to happen to anyone.

Sourish Ghosh said...

" Its about becoming blind to his shortcomings and being strong to forgive his mistakes."- woman , u really do know how to express something so unsaid and yet so understandlbly true in its truest sense..god bless you and G always !!!

Raj said...

:P
just holding his hand?

my gawd you really took time writing that up huh?
heartfelt and holy.

on a personal level, i loved it

Ria said...

This post was romance n love personified!! Loved it...and u understand love so well...missing my guy after reading this post. :)

Tamanna A. Shaikh said...

Aww Sulagna so very heart-warming post!! Now I know you guys met thru Jeevansathi and wow that amazes me that love can really spring up from unexpected places!! Enjoyed reading about the two of you! G seems to be very caring person!! God bless you two forever! :) Lots of love!

Nu said...

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Harini said...

This is so romantic and sweet. I guess none of your guys are romantic and do the sweet talk?

The Bald Guy said...

Aha! "All men are C......?"


Fill in the blanks please. Hehehehe.

Actually forget it, knowing you as I do, you'd fill up the blanks in a jiffy!

Very sweet post! Love it! God bless you both!

Pavitra .... said...

Aww....I can relate to this post so much...
Its about realising that his hands are the most wonderful things i have ever felt on my skin!!
Beautiful line! :)

Keep writing more!!
Cheers!!

ANWESA said...

A beautiful post.

Sanghamitra Bhattacherjee(Mukherjee) said...

A great blog!
I'm just amazed!!

Keep it up :)
http://rainbow-thecoloursofindia.blogspot.com/

asad said...

great going su..gold bless both of u..say hi to g from ma side...tc.

Sanghamitra Bhattacherjee(Mukherjee) said...

Hi Sulagna,
Now I'm your follower too..
Be happy with your G baby :)

Scribbling Girl said...

wow its indeed a post full of love and romance :) and u indeed described love in the real sense :)
Love is indeed the feeling of his hand in urs forever .....the call to find if he is awake....ya all is so true :)
May God Bless u both always :)

The (un)Common Woman said...

Such a lovely description! May the love be until forever! :)

Aparna Radhakrishnan said...

AMAZING...I hope I find the love that you found...

Thousif Raza said...

you have defined luv in the most sicere manner possbile didi... i gotta tell you, anyone readiong this would know... what really love is... i gotta tell you you guys have the most amazing realtion... it has its ups and downs... but at the end of the day... you guys are inseprable... and i think i belive a line which they always say... you guys are a match made in heaven.... :) and i'm so glad for it.... :)

take care and keep writing............

neha said...

Enjoy reading your blog.A very romantic post. God bless you both !!!

vineetasdiary said...

Hey! I initially thought I will not mention it in my comment but then I think I should.. I had tears in my eyes after reading it! God Bless you both!

I just loved one line a lot.. "Love is not about expensive eating outs but thanking god for the quick Maggi he makes for you when you are tired." I so completely agree with it :)

nil said...

You tell me I write well?
Lady, have you ever considered reading what you write twice? I'm so totally in love with you and your writing right now, it's not even funny.
I swear babe, eto shundor bhabey bodhoye aar keu bojhate parto naa the simplest facts of love. And you know.. there's this honesty that reflects your writing- and that's when we realize that what you say is right- every bit of it, and that I'll consider myself blessed with all the happiness in the world if I find a man like that.
I truly will feel blessed.

You're my favorite couple. Please know that.
And I'll write letters to god to bless you guys. Cause you guys are just.. gorgeous together!

And. Please. Get. To. Delhi.
Both. Of. You.

I love you :)

D said...

23rd comment

i am always late. but then, its ok, i love it that this place is so popular

your posts have a knack of calming my mind. you remind me that i am lucky that i have the kind of love that you express so well in your posts. i identify with what you and G have & i know its THE kind of love the whole world craves for.

love ho ya arranged marriage.. pyaar is pyaaar and you are so deep in it

*hug* I wish you guys the world of happiness

mwaaaahhh

D said...

and yes, i agree with nil completely. the way you write makes for perfect reading ! book likho!!! OR turn your blog into a book. bestseller 200%

Wicked Witch of the West said...

Oh lovely! :) Very nice post. And definitely like your idea of love (generic romantic stuff is so....well, generic!)

Pesto Sauce said...

I couldn't have read this post at a more apt time, these days I too am going through dilemma of soliciting companionship but am badly badly confused. Perhaps I need tutorials from you

♪You Kᴎow Me♫ said...

one word - A.W.E.S.O.M.E!!

suruchi said...

Su...I hate to start with the clichéd reaction but
Whoaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!
Yours was NOT a love marriage?????????
This is a mind blowing revelation!

Loved your journey into finding your G...
You know people often ask me too...what do you do to keep you G*that’s MY G btw...just to clear comedy of errors* so besotted?
And you said it right...
It’s the little things that matter...
Like I too have to have him call me as soon as he boards a train n as soon as he lands somewhere far away from me!
And he looks forward to it so much that at one instance when I skipped, I was branded as not being as loving as before!

Niceness is addictive...
And your kinda niceness surely takes the cake!
Loved the blog post as usual and so glad for the happy ending in the end!:-)

madhu said...

amazingly beautiful as ever...no wrds 2 say..was full of feelings..:)

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

wow !

God bless you both

High on Butterflies said...

Your post just left a lasting impression on my heart! :)

This surely IS love! :)

SG said...

Beautiful post. This is what I would call true love.

vivek said...

Awww thats so sweet ...
Loved it...

You wrote so beautifully ..giving clear glimpse of things..moved ahead for you ..

Wish You a very happy married life.
And for your kid , eager to come in your life...

Take care..

Sovina said...

oh! i can totally relate to whta you have written. mine was also an arranged marriage and i can never explain to anybody that the moment i met my husband i just knew that he is the one..so a love or an arranged is just a terminology ..a mere bifurcation in which at times the distinction is not very clear & often it is overlapping..great post :)
& a great blog:)

http://weddingonthecards.blogspot.com/

anupama said...

Dear Friend,
Good Evening!
First time here and enjoyed reading your post!As the laws of love are written based on real life experience they are so appealing!
Praying to God,let the love be strong between you and let all the beautiful sweet nothings you shared hold good for ever!:)
You reminded the mesmerising moments of being in love!:)
Wishing you a lovely evening,
Sasneham,
Anu

Readers Dais said...

Hi! Sulagna,

Beautiful love penned beautifully...loved it :)

Jack said...

Sulagna,

Beautifully explained what is real love. Very true in every way.

Take care

Sovina said...

hey..thanku so so much for following me..following u right back:))

Pooja Mahimkar said...

that was soo sooo sooo cute!

Dreamer... said...

loved the piece...truly adoring:)

Urvashi said...

first time on ur blog n its a lovely, lovely, lovely post... :)

Every word n sentence seemed just straight from ur heart..!!

Wishing u happiness always.. :)

DiDo said...

Wowww sulagna...!! ur the best :)

PNA said...

Sulagna,

Mindblowing girl, could feel that love flowing and remembered my AB.. miss him so much ;)

Love or arranged, marriage is a marriage and when two people come together to love and share a life enmeshed in so many feelings, love happens in the littlest things, in the silence, the smile, the burp... beautifully put

:):)

Scribblers Inc said...

ok, I seriously dint want to barge into your blog, but I had to for 3 basic reasons...

1) I am a dog person (five dogs woot!)

2) I AM a mukherjee

3) I AM FROM FREAKIN JAMSHEDPUR!!!

thats it, I am outta breath...too much coincidence for me to handle...

wishes
Scribblers Inc.

oRange* said...

EEEEEEEEEEE! :D
Aaami ki boli! I'm always at a loss of words after reading these posts of yours! So so so sweet, makes me want to have someone like that too :)

After this one, I love you even more. And yes, G too. Even though he is unaware of my existence :P

AND OMGGGG! Yours wasnt a LOVE marriage :O :O :O

Hahaha! Whatever it is, it's rocking baby ;)

Love.

aritra the daydreamer said...

wow....so sweet...ur writing have such a warmth...

Dew drops said...

i loved every word of it..Awesome and as always i wish u stay happy togethet,forever!

littlemissjuicy said...

Mashallah.
Hope you stay this happy, always. :)
P.S: Just mailed you on your gmail about the sisterhood project!

Sovina said...

he he ..i don't believe it ...associating with cheese...and i can totally understand how pissed you must have got..i get so many of these things when i go to india..aunties,relatives everybody has just one thing to ask..phew!!!

Sanghamitra Bhattacherjee(Mukherjee) said...

Thanks for your lovely comment on my post :)
Tomar next post -er opekhaye boshe achhi!!
Bhalo theko...

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comfortablynam said...

Beautiful expression of love. So much more real than what one finds in books. And so much stronger and touching the heart.

Much more of the same love to G and you.

Nostalgic said...

Aww, I haven't come across such a beautiful post in a long time, seriously. Beautifully describes what you feels for your hubby dear :)
when you have 500 bucks in your wallet and instead of buying a t-shirt for yourself, you pick up those floaters he wanted. Its about becoming blind to his shortcomings and being strong to forgive his mistakes. Its about picking your cell phone every half and hour to see if he messaged.
LOVED ITT! ITS SOO TRUEE...

Princess Pragya said...

I am in love. For sure.

Rishi said...

:D

amazing read... enjoyed

Remya said...

Beautiful.Beautiful.Beautiful.
And I liked the fct that you quit reading mush.
And I liked the fact that you waited.
And I loved the fact that every word of this blogpost conveyed such an indepth knowledge...that many aren't fortunate enough to experience.
You write, and you write well. You express, and you teach well.
:)
Take care :)

Luscious Sealed Lips said...

This is what I love the most about arranged marriages. There is this sweetness, like the after rain feel, that makes you smile and feel good, with or without a reason. :)

Kisses.

Thamanna said...

♥♥Totally adore you!!
really ur posts are amazing even though i dont belive in love at first sight and stuffs but its really great to read abt it

sandhyaa said...

u made me cry ...

The Bald Guy said...

@ Lawyer journo, You need to correct how you spell Journalism on your profile page.

Sulagna is not ugly. She's very very pretty, and you know why? Because she has a very pure heart. You'd seldom come across such people in this day and age.

But then you're a lawyer, right?

And you are a journalist too?

What happened? Did you flunk halfway through law school that you took up Mass Com. and then flunked that too? So you decided to join the two together and become what crap you are?

You know they say if you cannot say something good about someone, then stay neutral. It's not a good thing to say bad things about anyone.

I really have a lot of things to say here, but I am going to refrain.

You see I just took a glance at your blog, and saw what a dipshit you are.

Let people be what they are, Live and let live.

Get lost from here!

sulagna ™ said...

Mr Sissy Pants Lawyerjurno or whichever proffesion you follow..you are welcoem to read my blog, leave a dirty messgae or just malign me, its obvious how sad your blog is and the natural jealousy on seeing my blog..

however, ignoring your pathetic comments, all i want to say is. stay away from my personal life. stick to your limits and give some justice to the eductaion you have recieved by sounding a little sensible..why dont you put your handsome picture instead of that scrawlly cat that you have and leave me with my prettiness and my bunch of friends.

lawyerjourno said...

Howsoever bad looking I may be but I promise I am lot better than your cherished Mr G....hahahaha

sulagna ™ said...

oh great..good for you and your pretty wife!! live in peace

Phoenixritu said...

I just had to comment! You know when you have trolls like this one, please delete the comment and block the person. Don't allow them mileage on your space.

sulagna ™ said...

wow you truly are so wasted!!! hehee !

sulagna ™ said...

wow..intellect!and yes i saw your face too..on some post of yours..must say..you have all the rights to think others are ugly.

Surreal said...

@lawyerjurno: You are such a sadist! Please don't spread your negativity here. Stay away!

Dipti said...

lawyerjourno - what's wrong with you dude? first, get an eye check up. the woman you called "ugly" is too cute for words!

second, calling someone ugly just shows how black your heart is. Do you believe in God? how can you call his creation ugly? I'm sure GOD is very pissed at you now :p be careful, take care of yourself

third, the woman here is pretty inside n outside. you, on the other hand are so ugly inside. (i wont bother checking out how attractive and handsome you are cuz' its just not worth my time to open the page of a man who's so freakin ugly inside)

i think you should go to haridwar and take a bath in Ganga

:)

and yeah, again.. be careful, God is watching :p

lawyerjourno said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Dipti said...

chamatkaar ho gaya ▲

Sovina said...

@sugs : i think you don't need to reply to such comments and block them from your blog..there is no point in explaining them or in pointing out that how disgraceful they can be..such ppl never learn and they are not worth your time & energy..
(and why the hell is he coming and saying sorry..now he can't even stand on the things he said)

TheKeyBunch said...

Loved the piece! Please connect with me sometime, because I loved the way your thoughts flow.
And, hell with the guy who is obviously just green with envy. Concentrate on the 99.99% of good people around you!

Sharon

arbitthoughts said...

Wow, wow wow - This was one amazing post.

Each and every line of your post, reminded me of P and how lucky we were to have found each other.

Phoenix said...

i have been reading and reading...fanatically... older posts by older posts...finding love and some more love...

believing in destiny..clinging on to hope...and rejoicing in your happiness!!

i have read all posts till this one..couldnt stop myself from commenting... its beautiful

 
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